Now, if you’ll excuse me, I have to go explain what “third gender” is to some Hawaiian woman with the wrong definition.

Hate to tell it to you, but it’s true. If you’re not on HRT, or you’ve just started physical transition, you’re not valid. Sorry to say it, but I did this exact thing three years ago, and I’m part of the valid group who did it right, and you’re not.

And no, it has nothing to do with the fact that you’re not white. I can’t believe you would suggest that.

Maybe you should try to see this from my perspective: I was minding my own business until I read your post talking about wanting to start HRT, something that I have also done. And the fact that you haven’t already started it, even though you found out you were trans five months ago, is appalling. Offensive, even.

And no, your social transitioning doesn’t count. Someone like you can’t get to claim the badge if you didn’t earn it the hard way at the same time as I did, never mind the fact that plenty of people did it before me and are also valid.

Yeah, okay, sure, I was congratulating another newly trans person earlier, but it’s not because she’s white and you’re not. It’s just that we need to keep our community close and mended well and I get the impression from you that you’re not a good match for my ideal community. Again, for arbitrary reasons other than your race or ethnicity. I’m even friends with a black trans woman, so I can’t be racist.

Sorry, I don’t make the completely arbitrary and made-up rules up. If you didn’t transition when I did, you’re simply not trans. And the fact that you keep bringing your race into this just goes to show that you want to be oppressed so bad. But nobody is as oppressed as I, a white trans woman who came out three years ago. Any attempt at further discussion with me will only solidify my viewpoints — which, again, are not racist.